When friends feel more toxic than fun

We all want friends who make us feel good, who laugh with us, and who have our backs. But sometimes, a friendship starts to feel less like a safe space and more like a drain. You might leave interactions feeling anxious, annoyed, or just plain bad about yourself. If your friends feel more toxic than fun, it’s a sign to pay attention.

A toxic friendship often involves an imbalance. Maybe one person always talks about themselves, or consistently puts you down, even "jokingly." You might feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells around them, trying to avoid upsetting them. It’s like being in a play where you’re always performing.

Another red flag is a lack of respect for your boundaries. A toxic friend might pressure you into doing things you don't want to do, or disregard your feelings. They might spread rumors, talk behind your back, or try to control who you hang out with. True friends respect your limits and your choices.

Sometimes, it's about constant drama. If your friendship revolves around gossip, negativity, or always being in the middle of someone else’s mess, that's exhausting. Your friends should be a source of support and joy, not constant stress and anxiety. You shouldn't have to carry their emotional baggage all the time.

And beware of friends who undermine your privacy or safety. Sharing your secrets without permission, pressuring you into risky situations, or making you feel unsafe in any way are huge no-nos. Your personal safety and emotional well-being should always come first. That’s non-negotiable.

So, what do you do if you realize a friendship is turning toxic? First, recognize that it's okay to create distance or even end a friendship that isn't serving you. It's not easy, but protecting your mental health is crucial. Try talking to the friend directly about how you feel, if you feel safe doing so. Sometimes, people don't realize the impact of their actions.

If talking doesn't help, or if the situation feels unsafe, it's time to step back. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, who celebrate you, and who make you feel good about being yourself. You deserve friendships that are genuinely fun and supportive.