How to form healthy relationships

We all want friends who make us feel good, who laugh with us, and who have our backs. But sometimes, all those perfect-looking connections online can make you wonder: what does a healthy relationship actually look like in real life? It's not always fireworks and grand gestures. Often, it's the quiet, consistent stuff that makes a relationship truly strong, whether it's with a friend, a partner, or a family member.

At its core, a healthy relationship is built on respect. This means respecting each other’s boundaries, opinions, and individuality. It’s about valuing the other person for who they are, even if you don't always agree. You should feel seen and heard, not dismissed or belittled.

Communication is also a huge one. This doesn't mean you have to talk about everything, all the time. It means being able to express your feelings openly and honestly, without fear of judgment. It’s about really listening to each other, even when it’s hard. And it’s about finding healthy ways to resolve conflicts, because disagreements are inevitable.

Trust is another non-negotiable. You should feel like you can rely on the other person, that they have your back, and that they're being truthful with you. Trust takes time to build, and it can be fragile, so it needs to be nurtured. It’s the foundation that everything else stands on.

In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe—physically, emotionally, and mentally. You should feel free to be yourself, without walking on eggshells or fearing criticism. Your partner or friend should lift you up, not tear you down. They should celebrate your successes and support you through tough times.

And importantly, a healthy relationship encourages your independence. You should still have your own friends, hobbies, and interests. Your relationship should add to your life, not consume it. It’s about two whole people coming together, not two halves trying to make a whole. Recognize when relationships are boosting you and when they're draining you.